We’re not in the 19th century anymore, when women who didn’t marry by age 22 or close to it were destined to become spinsters. Even during the first 60 years of the 1900’s a girl’s goal was expected to be marriage and staying home with the children. In the 50’s, married couple households made up 80% of the American demographic. A lot has changed. Today’s women see themselves in a better position to choose the single life. Women hold better paying jobs now and can support themselves. Those who choose marriage still find themselves responsible for keeping up the home and childcare, a lifestyle they view as either undesirable or unfair.
Reason #1
For decades our culture taught us that if a woman was single she just wasn’t complete. Unmarried females were considered flawed in some way, or pitied. The idea that single women must be lonely or miserable is a myth. Yet, this concept is so engrained in women’s psyche that many shy away from admitting they are content with their life as a single. They needn’t be. Choosing the single life means choosing the freedom to be you, without having to consider the goals and desires of a mate. Unmarried women can make their own decisions without having to think about a spouse’s opinion or how their actions will affect him. You can spend time and effort on a career of your choosing. You have far more time to dedicate on hobbies, education, travel, family and friends.
Reason #2
More single women own their own homes now. It wasn’t that long ago that single women seeking a bank loan were turned down simply because she was unmarried. She could deposit her paycheck into her account, have her own savings, but don’t ask for a loan. Although there was a time in the earlier 20th century that a woman needed a spouse to have a bank account. Today, single female home buyers make up 24% of the market. Home ownership not only adds to her economical portfolio, it’s a huge boost to a woman’s sense of personal contentment. Whether she rents or owns, a woman feels more secure in a living space she has decorated and sees as her own.
Reason #3
More women are out in the workforce than ever before. Some are married, some are not. For both groups, work can become an important part of self-esteem. Though it’s still true in many cases that hard working, ambitious women are viewed as compensating for the lack of a man in her life, men are considered in a far better light. Time is slowly changing this mind set. The truth is, satisfying work offers a feeling of worth and accomplishment, and for single women, a sense of independence.
Reason #4
The morals and judgments of American society have played a big role in the life of single mothers since the beginning. In some groups today, judgments are still biased, but not so much as before. Single women are choosing to become mothers. Single working women see themselves in a much more positive light than ever before. The idea that, “She’s only working because she has to. Otherwise, she would be home with her children,” is becoming obsolete. Women have learned that they can be parents without having a husband.
Reason #5
Being single does not have to mean being alone. You can choose a significant other and live together or not. If you keep financial matters separate and it doesn’t work out, ending the relationship will still be painful. However, staying financially separate means one huge burden you won’t have to deal with. In a small way it’s having your cake and eating it, too. In addition, there are many opportunities for the single woman to expand her social community. Those who live in the cities often form relationships by being part of an “urban tribe.” These are groups that share common interests and meet regularly. Lasting friendships can grow from colleagues at work. Being single offers more opportunities to spend with your social group without feeling like your are neglecting someone at home. Single life often allows more time to be with parents, siblings and extended family.
Reason #6
No marriage, no sex? We all know that’s a fallacy. As a single adult you can experience a sexual relationship and remain monogamous, or you can enjoy the freedom of “playing the field”. Although, it is HIGHLY recommended that whichever you choose, you choose wisely and practice safe sex. You can remain celibate if you wish and who’s to complain?
Source: WomensHealthBase
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